The DDW Commencement Address

I’ve been lucky to do a lot of cool things, but it was the honor of a lifetime to be invited to share my thoughts with the 249 graduates of my former high school along with the 3,000+ relatives/loved ones in the audience.

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Society’s Fear of the Black Man

As a fatherhood author and activist, I pride myself on talking about issues that celebrate our similarities instead of focusing on our differences. However, when NPR’s Morning Edition contacted me to discuss society’s fear of the black man, I took them up on it because it plays a role in how I approach being a dad. I hope you’ll take the time to listen to the interview in its entirety and share your thoughts.


Dads Going Viral? Yeah, It’s A Good Thing

Dads are getting a ton of attention in traditional media and social media right now. A single dad named Greg Wickherst decided to enroll in cosmetology classes so he could learn to style his 3-year-old daughter’s hair and the world lost its mind. The Super Bowl broadcast aired multiple commercials featuring dads involved with their kids and people still can’t stop talking about them. The list goes on and on.

Meanwhile, there are moms all over the country with arms folded thinking, “Why are these guys getting all of this praise? I do all of this blindfolded on a typical Thursday morning and nobody is planning a parade route for me or even giving me a pat on the back. It’s a joke.”

Not so fast, ladies.


Smashing Stereotypes, One Toy Bed At a Time

Recently, it was time to get my daughter a big girl bed. The issue was, what type of bed would I get her?

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What Ferguson Should’ve Taught Us About Critical Thinking



Back in the not so distant past, I remember watching the O.J. Simpson murder trial with some of my college friends and our discussions became heated. No, we didn’t come to blows and we didn’t stoop to name calling, but we did have diametrically opposed opinions when it came to whether Simpson should walk or fry. I would make my points, my buddies would offer their counterpoints, and the cycle continued.

Even though we never came to a consensus, a beautiful thing happened: We had a respectful debate. We felt energized and empowered to believe what we believed while also empathizing with those who felt differently. I learned from my friends, they learned from me, and the issues were spoken about thoughtfully. It was a clichéd win-win situation.

I remember my parents having the same thoughtful discussions with me and my brothers when similar hot button topics came up in the news. That’s just how things were handled back in the day. Then Al Gore invented the World Wide Web and respectful, open-minded discussions began to take a nosedive.

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I Hate Bullying

October is National Bullying Prevention Month – and as a guy who was bullied mercilessly as a kid, you know I’ll have some thoughts to share.

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No More Doin’ Work

I made one of the toughest decisions of my life last week. A decision that will change the dynamics of my family for the foreseeable future. Here’s how it all went down.

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Questions To The Parenting Gods From A Daddy

Over the weekend, I took both of my kids to a Daddy-Daughter Tea event at a popular shopping center in Los Angeles called The Grove. Both were well behaved and we had an amazing time together. On top of that, they fell asleep on the car ride home, I carried them inside, put them down for naps, and neither of them woke up. I never felt more like a boss in my life as a dad. Of course, I tripped on a toy and face-planted into a wall, which resulted in waking the baby up, but I did feel like a boss for about 15 minutes or so.  The point here is that the Parenting Gods smile down on us at times and other times we feel their wrath. So, Parenting Gods – if I could have a moment you, these are the questions I would like to ask.

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10 Random Thoughts From A Dad on Frozen

I’ve watched Frozen many times. Probably more than I’ve watched any animated movie in my lifetime. Check that – probably more than I’ve watched any movie in my lifetime, and having a 3-year old daughter is the main reason for that. Whenever you do something over and over again, random thoughts enter your mind and it is no different with me. Here are my thoughts:

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Striking Out On One Pitch

Daniel Murphy is a dad. A first-time dad. Let’s just start there.

I know how I felt as a first-time dad. I laughed, I cried, I was on a high that simply could not be duplicated. More importantly, I wanted to be around the tiny human I helped to create more than anything. I wanted to hold her, kiss her, feed her bottles, take her on walks around the neighborhood, and bond with her. That’s what any dad should do, right?

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