You watched the video above, right? ^^ It’s only 90 seconds long. Don’t worry, I’ll wait.
Okay, now we can start. Hi there, and welcome to my blog! For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Doyin (It’s a West African name pronounced “doe-ween”) and I’m a father to two lovely little girls who happen to be the center of my universe. I’m not a parenting expert (and let’s face it – neither are you), but I absolutely love being a dad and I’m here to share my perspective regarding the most important job a man will ever have in his lifetime.
Some of what you’ll read will make you laugh, some of what you’ll read will make you cringe, but I’ll go out on a limb and say that nothing you’ll read here will ever be boring. You’ll just have to trust me on this.
Just like all of us, I’m a work in progress and I’m far from perfect; however, I pride myself on being your Daddy Consultant who will do whatever I can to create and recognize a world of good, involved dads who love and support their families. I’m completely convinced that there are more good dads out there than bad ones, and I want to use my platform to celebrate these men, push the ones who need improvement (including me) to be better, and to recognize the amazing women (and men) they partner with. I may not have the amount of daddy experience as some of my readers, but I’ve learned a lot in my short time as a dad – and I look forward to sharing my experiences with you.
If you’re a Daddy doin’ work or you’re romantically involved with one – this blog is for you. If you intend to become a Daddy doin’ work or intend to marry one someday, and you want to know what it’s like firsthand, then this blog is definitely for you. If you’re involved with a deadbeat dad and you need him to receive a proverbial “ass kicking” in order to step up for you and your family, this blog is absolutely for you. Last, but not least, don’t forget to do the following very important things:
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- Sit back, submit your comments, and enjoy the ride!
In addition to my blog, be sure to check out my daddy thoughts as a contributing writer for the following websites: Upworthy, TODAY Parents, AskMen.com, Parents Magazine, HuffPost Parents, The Good Men Project, Babble, and Headline News (HLN).
Ten random facts about me:
- I’m probably the only person alive who hates coffee, potatoes, and chocolate.
- People say that I resemble former NBA player Ray Allen of the Miami Heat.
- I’m very opinionated.
- I like to hug strangers.
- I’m a country kid from Massachusetts, and even though I’ve been in LA for ten years I’m still not used to this place.
- I like happy people.
- After an epic night of drinking in college, my identical twin brother and I traded places once by…..never mind.
- I smile a lot.
- I love sports. If it involves a ball being thrown, kicked, hit, or bounced – I’ll be watching.
- I’m deathly afraid of frogs.
Frequently Asked Questions:
Q: What was your most embarrassing moment?
A: When I was in college, I was on my way to pick up a girl for our first date. While I was in the car, I felt the need to fart – and since I was alone, that’s what I did. Unfortunately, I crapped myself in the process. I cancelled on this girl twice in the past and she was really attractive, so I knew if I cancelled on her for a third time I’d never get another chance. So I pulled over and changed out of my boxer shorts quickly, and in doing so – I got a little bit of poop on the fabric of the passenger’s seat. I covered it up with an old gym towel in the trunk of my car and continued to her place. Once I picked her up, she kept complaining that my car smelled really bad. Needless to say, I didn’t get a second date. Damn unpredictable bowels. (Yes, I know that’s probably way more than you wanted or expected – but there’s your answer).
Q: Is there a story behind your logo?
A: Yes there is. When my oldest daughter was born I had a wide-eyed scared expression on my face for the first three months of her life. It was my, “Oh shit, I hope I don’t break this kid” face (every new parent has their own version of the face). Anyway, I drew a little cartoon of the expression and it became my logo.
Q: You give a lot of advice on your blog. How did you become such an expert at life?
A: When you’ve made as many stupid mistakes as I’ve made in life (painful mistakes too, I might add), you tend to pay more attention to your environment to ensure you don’t make the same mistakes again. Keep in mind, oftentimes the advice I give to my readers is advice that I desperately need to hear and follow myself. I can’t stress this enough – I am a guy with hopes, dreams, and fears just like all of you. I’m only sharing what has worked for me and I hope that it helps all of you as well.
Q: Nobody is as perfect as you seem. Do you have any faults/issues?
A: HA! That’s a good one. I’m far from perfect and I have plenty of issues. First off, I’ve battled with depression for many years and even to this day it rears its ugly head into my life. My behavior due to my depression has cost me a few friends and relationships, but those who truly “get me” understand that it’s a constant struggle and they have my back throughout it all. The main thing today is that I never run from my imperfections and I’m not ashamed of them. If any of you are dealing with depression and you need tips on how to deal with it, hit me up. I’m not a doctor, but I’ve sat in a therapist’s office before and I may be able to offer up a few pointers.
In addition to that –
- I have the world’s ugliest feet (they look as if they belong to a jungle creature).
- I have a horrible habit of leaving the toilet seat up and peeing on the floor.
- I’m the world’s worst dancer for a black man.
- I’m deathly afraid of frogs.
Q: Do you have any role-models in writing?
A: Absolutely. My favorite writer of all-time is a sports writer by the name of Bill Simmons
currently formerly at Grantland. I simply cannot get enough of this dude’s work and since he grew up in Massachusetts (like me) and now lives in Los Angeles (like me), I plan to fulfill my man-crush by meeting him someday. So Bill, if you’re reading this (and I know you’re not), hit a brotha up so we can have drinks.
OK, this whole answer makes me sound creepy. Let’s move on, shall we?
Q: I know you’re a twin. What’s your best twin story?
A: My twin vetoed the idea of sharing my favorite twin story, so I’m going to use a secondary PG-rated story instead. I was in my eight grade Social Studies class and all of a sudden I experienced really sharp head pain. It was to the point where I said, “OW!” and the class stopped completely. The teacher suggested that I go to the nurse’s office and when I did, my twin brother was there because he slipped and hit his head in Gym class. Crazy.
THE FAMILY DOIN’ WORK:
Your friendly, neighborhood Daddy Doin’ Work (DDW)
The tough, no-nonsense, but amazing Mommy Doin’ Work (MDW)
Born in January 2011, she is 25% Japanese, 25% White, 50% Black, and 100% awesome. Introducing the lovely Daughter Doin’ Work 1 (DDW1)
Born in July 2013, she is also 25% Japanese, 25% White, 50% Black, and 100% awesome. Introducing the lovely Daughter Doin’ Work 2 (DDW2)