Happy 4th of July! Today has always been one of my favorite holidays because we get to celebrate living in the greatest country on earth – the United States of America. Speaking of America, now that I have a daughter I find myself thinking about what an “All-American Girl” is all about and I’ll share those thoughts with you now.
Quick question, when you hear the term “All-American Girl,” what’s the first thing you think of? White girl, blonde hair, nice figure, has perfect kids, and her only purpose in life is to serve her husband, right?
Ladies, does this describe any of you?
That’s what I thought.
Let me take a moment to break down the stereotypical All-American Girl:
White Girl: If that’s the case, then there are very few All-American girls left in our country. It’s just a matter of time before white people are a minority in the great US of A, and I know that bothers a great deal of people (but not any of my readers who embrace diversity, of course). Blacks, Latinos, Asians, etc. are multiplying at an exponential rate around here. Not to mention, I know a ton of white men and women who are married to people outside of their race. The new All-American Girl can be white, but she can also be any other race as well.
Blonde Hair: No offense to blonde-haired women, but can someone explain to me how blondes became the pinnacle of all things beautiful? Don’t get me wrong, there are a ton of good-looking blonde women out there (Scarlett Johansson is by far my favorite…I know she changes her hair color often, but she’s amazing as a blonde) – but there are just as many brunettes and redheads that are extremely attractive as well. I’ll go out on a limb here and predict that my daughter will not have blonde hair, and I never want her to think that she’s not beautiful because of it. The new All-American Girl can be a blonde, brunette, redhead, or even rock the lime-green look like the goth girl I saw at the park the other day. Speaking of that goth girl, I’ll go out on a limb again and say that she probably dyed her hair green to rebel against what society’s perception of beauty is. And yes, she’s just as All-American and beautiful as anyone else.
Nice Figure: What does this mean, anyway? If you ask ten different people how to define a nice female figure, you’ll probably receive ten different answers. I know that she’s not really relevant anymore, but I always think about Paris Hilton in regards to this topic. There was an old co-worker of mine who worshipped this woman and thought she was the most beautiful woman alive. When I asked him why he thought this, he said, “Dude, just look at her body! How can you not get turned on by the sight of her??” Look, if I drove my ass to the local Middle School, found a 13-year old white boy, put him in a blonde wig, applied some make up, and placed him in a lineup next to the real Paris Hilton, you wouldn’t be able to pick out the correct one if your life depended on it. I know it’s only one man’s opinion, but Paris Hilton (and other skinny women like her) are NOT hot. The sad thing is that there are many women out there who aspire to look like Paris and Rihanna (yes, I said Rihanna. I know I’m in the minority here – but I don’t find her the least bit attractive. Eat a few Big Macs, please). Why exactly is this? Is it because society beat women down with its definition of the All-American Girl and they feel like they have to starve themselves to maintain a certain body image? That sucks, if you ask me. Beautiful women come in all shapes, sizes, and nationalities. Sofia Vergara? Beautiful. Adele? Beautiful. Beyonce? Beautiful. Christina Hendricks? Beautiful. Toccara Jones? Beautiful. None of these women fall into the old definition of an All-American Girl’s “nice figure,” but they would if I had something to do with it. I never want my daughter to think that looking like a skeleton with skin is the definition of beauty. Additionally, looks are only a small part of what makes a woman beautiful.
Perfect Kids: Nobody has perfect kids. No need to elaborate on this.
Only Purpose in Life is to Serve Her Husband: ”Women should be seen and not heard,” “A woman’s place is in the home,” etc. As ridiculous as those phrases are, it’s even more ridiculous to know that there are a lot of men (and women) in America who still believe them. Whoever said those things hasn’t met Mommy Doin’ Work. She owns and operates a successful business in Beverly Hills, and she was raised to believe that women can do a hell of a lot more than cook, clean, and “serve” men. She’s tough, funny, beautiful, athletic, smart, ambitious and the perfect role-model for our daughter. Coincidentally, MDW was born on the 4th of July (Happy Birthday, Honey!) and I’ve never met a more awesome All-American Girl than her.
Editor’s Note: This is somewhat off-topic, but I feel compelled to bring it up. I know that I’ve mentioned this before in previous blog postings, but I LOVE and respect stay at-home moms who happily and willingly take on that role for the betterment of their families. However, I feel sad for the stay-at-home moms who bust their asses all day while their husbands are at work, and when he gets home – he STILL expects you to do everything (like cook dinner, get the kids bathed and ready for bed, etc.) because he believes that you did nothing except for “watch TV and eat ice cream for ten hours straight” while he sat at a desk doing “real work.” Even as a new dad, I know how hard stay-at-home moms work. I could go on for days about the stay-at-home mom topic, but I’ll save that for a future entry. Stay tuned.
OK, that’s enough ranting. Today is about celebrating America with our loved ones and I want every little girl in this great country of ours to know that they are true All-American girls. If you have a daughter – teach her to be tough, smart, kind, respectful, open-minded, and loving to all people who may be different than she is. In doing so, I hope it will make our wonderful nation a much better place to live than it already is.
Be safe and enjoy a very happy 4th!