Introducing the New All-American Girl

Happy 4th of July! Today has always been one of my favorite holidays because we get to celebrate living in the greatest country on earth – the United States of America. Speaking of America, now that I have a daughter I find myself thinking about what an “All-American Girl” is all about and I’ll share those thoughts with you now. 


Quick question, when you hear the term “All-American Girl,” what’s the first thing you think of? White girl, blonde hair, nice figure, has perfect kids, and her only purpose in life is to serve her husband, right?

Ladies, does this describe any of you?



That’s what I thought.

Let me take a moment to break down the stereotypical All-American Girl:

White Girl: If that’s the case, then there are very few All-American girls left in our country. It’s just a matter of time before white people are a minority in the great US of A, and I know that bothers a great deal of people (but not any of my readers who embrace diversity, of course). Blacks, Latinos, Asians, etc. are multiplying at an exponential rate around here. Not to mention, I know a ton of white men and women who are married to people outside of their race. The new All-American Girl can be white, but she can also be any other race as well.

Blonde Hair: No offense to blonde-haired women, but can someone explain to me how blondes became the pinnacle of all things beautiful? Don’t get me wrong, there are a ton of good-looking blonde women out there (Scarlett Johansson is by far my favorite…I know she changes her hair color often, but she’s amazing as a blonde) – but there are just as many brunettes and redheads that are extremely attractive as well. I’ll go out on a limb here and predict that my daughter will not have blonde hair, and I never want her to think that she’s not beautiful because of it. The new All-American Girl can be a blonde, brunette, redhead, or even rock the lime-green look like the goth girl I saw at the park the other day. Speaking of that goth girl, I’ll go out on a limb again and say that she probably dyed her hair green to rebel against what society’s perception of beauty is. And yes, she’s just as All-American and beautiful as anyone else.

Nice Figure: What does this mean, anyway? If you ask ten different people how to define a nice female figure, you’ll probably receive ten different answers. I know that she’s not really relevant anymore, but I always think about Paris Hilton in regards to this topic. There was an old co-worker of mine who worshipped this woman and thought she was the most beautiful woman alive. When I asked him why he thought this, he said, “Dude, just look at her body! How can you not get turned on by the sight of her??” Look, if I drove my ass to the local Middle School, found a 13-year old white boy, put him in a blonde wig, applied some make up, and placed him in a lineup next to the real Paris Hilton, you wouldn’t be able to pick out the correct one if your life depended on it. I know it’s only one man’s opinion, but Paris Hilton (and other skinny women like her) are NOT hot. The sad thing is that there are many women out there who aspire to look like Paris and Rihanna (yes, I said Rihanna. I know I’m in the minority here – but I don’t find her the least bit attractive. Eat a few Big Macs, please). Why exactly is this? Is it because society beat women down with its definition of the All-American Girl and they feel like they have to starve themselves to maintain a certain body image? That sucks, if you ask me. Beautiful women come in all shapes, sizes, and nationalities. Sofia Vergara? Beautiful. Adele? Beautiful. Beyonce? Beautiful. Christina Hendricks? Beautiful. Toccara Jones? Beautiful. None of these women fall into the old definition of an All-American Girl’s “nice figure,” but they would if I had something to do with it. I never want my daughter to think that looking like a skeleton with skin is the definition of beauty. Additionally, looks are only a small part of what makes a woman beautiful.

Perfect Kids: Nobody has perfect kids. No need to elaborate on this.

Only Purpose in Life is to Serve Her Husband: “Women should be seen and not heard,” “A woman’s place is in the home,” etc. As ridiculous as those phrases are, it’s even more ridiculous to know that there are a lot of men (and women) in America who still believe them. Whoever said those things hasn’t met Mommy Doin’ Work. She owns and operates a successful business in Beverly Hills, and she was raised to believe that women can do a hell of a lot more than cook, clean, and “serve” men. She’s tough, funny, beautiful, athletic, smart, ambitious and the perfect role-model for our daughter. Coincidentally, MDW was born on the 4th of July (Happy Birthday, Honey!) and I’ve never met a more awesome All-American Girl than her.

Editor’s Note: This is somewhat off-topic, but I feel compelled to bring it up. I know that I’ve mentioned this before in previous blog postings, but I LOVE and respect stay at-home moms who happily and willingly take on that role for the betterment of their families. However, I feel sad for the stay-at-home moms who bust their asses all day while their husbands are at work, and when he gets home – he STILL expects you to do everything (like cook dinner, get the kids bathed and ready for bed, etc.) because he believes that you did nothing except for “watch TV and eat ice cream for ten hours straight” while he sat at a desk doing “real work.” Even as a new dad, I know how hard stay-at-home moms work. I could go on for days about the stay-at-home mom topic, but I’ll save that for a future entry. Stay tuned.

OK, that’s enough ranting. Today is about celebrating America with our loved ones and I want every little girl in this great country of ours to know that they are true All-American girls. If you have a daughter – teach her to be tough, smart, kind, respectful, open-minded, and loving to all people who may be different than she is. In doing so, I hope it will make our wonderful nation a much better place to live than it already is.

Be safe and enjoy a very happy 4th!




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  1. JJ says

    I love this! As a blonde-haired, blue-eyed, white woman I think we really need to do better as a society when it comes to what an All American Girl is all about. Your baby girl is beautiful and she’s very lucky to have a daddy who values and respects women. Kudos to you!

    • says

      Thanks JJ. I was at the gym this morning and I saw something on the news about “All-American Girls,” so I felt compelled to compose this before I drank some beers and barbecued with the rest of America.

      And I’m the lucky one to have my daughter – not the other way around :)
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  2. MelanieJ says

    Another white girl here. I absolutely love your blog! Thank you for including that blurb about stay-at-home moms. I happen to be one, and my husband doesn’t realize that I work 10x harder chasing around our two boys than he does in his office.

    Happy Birthday to your wife! She is VERY lucky to have you :)

    • says

      Thanks for the kind words, Melanie! I’m very passionate about the SAHM thing, because I know plenty of women who do this. That sucks about your hubby, but hopefully if he reads this blog regularly, he’ll come around :)

      Happy 4th to you and yours!

  3. Pasta says

    Isn’t that what it means to be American? It’s really the only country on Earth where this kind of diversity and intermingling is possible. That’s what we celebrate today!

  4. Jess says

    You are an amazing writer!! I have two daughters who definitely do not fit society’s view of the all american girl. I like your description a lot more

    By the way, why do you only have 240 Facebook likes?? I read a ton of blogs that has a lot more fans than you have, but NONE of those blogs have better content than you have.

    We need to get the word out about you, sir.

    • says

      Thanks Jess! I’m just starting out with the blogging thing, so that could be a reason why I only have 240 likes so far…building an audience takes time, I guess. I depend a lot on people like you to get the word out, but my main focus is ensuring that the readers I currently have are happy, and hopefully I’m doing a good job with that!
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  5. Carol says

    Enjoyable post, but I confess I have never thought Rihanna skinny. That chick is all kinds of curvy, with a marvelous hourglass figure — she’s got some real woman tush and thighs going on! The wonderful thing about her is that she’s proud of her body and exudes confidence, and while I do not particularly go in her overly racy lyrics or vids, I very much respect her for owning all parts of herself without fear. That is part of what being an All-American Girl is, at least according to *this* 6′ tall All-American redhead.

  6. Amy says

    Love this post, but I want to add that not only is it important to teach our daughters to be tough, smart, kind, respectful, openminded and loving….it’s vital to teach our sons to respect all those attributes! And thank you for the props for the SAHM too. As a smart and tough woman who put her career on hold to stay home and raise 3 kids, I truly appreciate it. I get no recognition here at home, but I just keep reminding myself that recognition is not why I made this choice….but boy is it nice to hear sometimes. Thank you.

    • says

      Great point, Amy. I mentioned girls only because there was a story about “All-American GIrls” on the news while I was at the gym, so I focused only on them.

      In regards to the SAHM thing, I’m in the process of composing a post about this right now. I hope you stay tuned to read it. :)
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  7. Beth says

    In response to the comment above about you having 240 FB likes (you’re over 250 now). I kinda like how you’re like the “underground Indie artist” of bloggers. You’re a supremely talented writer, you’re funny, and handsome…it’s just that very few people know about you.

    Once you blow up (and you will), don’t forget about the little people who supported you from the beginning!! :)

    • says

      Beth, that’s really kind of you to say! I’m not sure if I’ll ever blow up or not, but either way – I’ll never stop writing, and I’ll never stop being grateful to the people who supported me from the jump. Thanks for the kind words!!
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  8. says

    You hit the nail on the head here. Have you checked out _Cinderella Ate My Daughter_? It kinda expands on what you said with some researchy stuff to back it up:)

  9. Leean says

    Maybe one way to start changing our thinking is stop using the term All American Girl except when we mean children because we have come to idealize women who have childlike bodies. Furthermore, I think insisting on All American Girl infantilizes women to a degree. Call me the no fun feminist but tell me that the cameras don’t like Paris, Jessica Simpson, Kim K, etc, in part because they are stupid. I am sure they aren’t that stupid in real life, that they dud down for the cameras, but at what point does it stop becoming an act? BTW, got turned on to your blog through Greta and find it delightful. Thanks.

  10. Edelia says

    OMG! Finally someone else who does not think Rihanna is all that! I’m just tired of hearing on TV that she is a good role model for young girls. Really? I think not. Just saying :)

  11. Angela says

    Agreed with you up until the point you said skinny women are not hot…just as there is ‘fat shaming’ there is also skinny shaming. As a naturally slim woman with a healthy appetite/lifestyle this is equally offensive. You said it; beautiful women come in ALL shapes and sizes.

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