Tribute to Mommy Doin’ Work

I’m going off the grid a little bit here, but I’m cool with it because today marks the fourth wedding anniversary for me and Mommy Doin’ Work. We’ve had our share of ups and downs during the past four years, but I wouldn’t want another co-pilot navigating through the crazy road of life and parenthood other than MDW. Here’s why.

To provide a little background, my twin brother and I went to a house party many years ago and we saw two really pretty girls. He ditched me early in the night to talk to the girl he liked, and the girl I had my eye on was in the middle of a conversation with a group of people. Instead of twiddling my thumbs, I figured that I’d make my move. Check out this opening line:

“Hey, are you Asian?”

I’m smooth like butter, baby…smoooooooth. Surprisingly the conversation went well for about five minutes or so…and then she poured her drink on me. Yes, that happened. 

The next day, my twin called the girl he liked and we found out something pretty crazy: The girls were roommates and best friends. They didn’t interact with each other during the entire party, so we were completely shocked by this. Luckily, my twin’s new dating interest was able to convince the cute girl I liked to give me a chance, and two nights later we had a double date.

Fast-forward to today, and my twin and I are married to the two best friends and we have three beautiful daughters between us. Not to mention, our families live a few short miles apart and we see each other almost every weekend. Nuts, right? You can’t make this shit up. Editor’s Note: I know the questions you’re going to ask before you ask them – so, no we did not have a joint wedding. 

This is what it looks like when identical twins marry best friends.

There are so many reasons why MDW and I work so well together and why she’s such a great role-model for our daughter.

Tough Love: You know that person who will just tell you what you want to hear? MDW is not that person. She always tells me like it is. What if the dinner I made tastes like shit? She’ll tell me. What if I come home from the gym and my body odor is riper than summer fruit? She’ll tell me. What if I do or say something to piss her off or embarrass her (like pretty much everything I write on my blog)? She’ll tell me. At the same time she’ll be the first to tell me when I do something thoughtful, kind, or helpful. I don’t know about the rest of you, but that’s what I want in a life partner. How can I be better at a task or behavior if I don’t know when I’m doing it wrong? Nobody is better at keeping it real than my wife. Not to mention, there’s ZERO chance little DDW will be a spoiled brat if MDW has anything to say about it. 

She’s really funny: Just read this and get back to me.

She’s a leader: MDW made the decision early on that she didn’t want to work for anyone else, and now she’s owns and operates a very successful company. If little DDW chooses to be a stay-at-home-mom when she grows up, that’s fine with us. If she decides that she wants to be the Queen of the Universe, that’s fine with us too. No matter what she chooses – we want her to be a leader, and MDW is great role-model for our baby in that respect. 

She’s strong: I mean this literally. She once told me that if we fought in a steel cage match, she’d rip my testicles off and make earrings out of them. I don’t have anything witty or funny to say about this, but I think it’s a good thing for a husband to harbor a healthy dose of fear when it comes to his wife. 

She’s a hard-worker: This woman busts her ass for our family. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, being a mom, and running a company. Sure, I have a full-time corporate job and help out a lot around the house, but it’s different. The pressure of being the CEO of a company while also being the CEO of a family is no joke. And guess what? She never complains and she handles it all like…well, a boss. Without question, she’s the toughest woman person I know. 

She’s fiercely loyal: Yes, I’m a knucklehead and I piss her off quite often, but when the chips are down – I never have to worry about whether she has my back or not. The type of loyalty this woman has for our family is unlike anything I’ve ever witnessed. 

When I think of MDW, I don’t think about how pretty she is, or how smart she is, or how funny she is, or how great of a mother she is – I only think that I couldn’t picture my life without her. My wife is my hero, my partner, my confidante, my homie, and my one-and-only love. I’m so thankful for the time we spend together and I couldn’t ask for a better role-model for little DDW than her.

Honey, if you’re reading this, please know that I’m humbled and honored to be your husband – and I will never take your love for granted. Thank you for inspiring me everyday to be a better man than I was yesterday, and if our daughter grows up to be half of the woman you are today, I will be very proud.

I love you. Happy Anniversary.