It’s rare that I publish more than one post in a week, but it occurred to me last night that I have a lot of subscribers to my blog who don’t follow me on Facebook or Twitter (my Mom is the best example of this). However, my beloved mother is already aware of the news I’m about to share here.
We’re pregnant with baby #2!
First off, let me state that I’m completely overjoyed by this news. As many of you know, we haven’t had the greatest luck getting pregnant - so you can probably imagine how cool this is for us. I received a lot of questions and I did my best to answer a few of them below:
#1 – Do you know what you’re having? Do you have a preference? Through the advances of modern medicine, we know the gender of our baby even though we’re only 13 weeks in (Editor’s Note: There are blood tests to check for this now). We’re having….another GIRL!
In regards to preferences, yes I absolutely have a strong preference:
I want a healthy, happy baby.
I know that’s a big fat “duh” for most of you, but it’s true. Gender-wise, I really couldn’t care less. Having a boy would mean that I’d have the opportunity to raise a boy and a girl, which would be pretty nice. But I just can’t explain it…there’s something really special about being a dad to a little girl. To MDW’s chagrin, Little DDW is a daddy’s girl through and through, and there’s nothing cooler than seeing a cute little girl in pig tails yell, “DADDY!!” whenever I walk through the door. It simply melts me every time. Would it be the same if I had a little boy? Probably. However, I’m so in-tune with jeggings, Dora, princesses, and glitter that I’m more than happy to continue this trend for the foreseeable future. Not to mention, I have two brothers and when this baby arrives in July 2013, we will have seven kids between us and SIX of them will be girls (my twin brother has two girls, and my older brother has a girl and a set of boy/girl twins).
#2 – What’s the biggest thing you’re worried about as you transition from one baby to two? Sleep. Here’s the thing – Little DDW is a champion sleeper, and has been ever since she was three months old. We put her to bed between 7:30 PM – 8:00 PM and we don’t hear a peep from her until about 6:00 AM – 6:30 AM the following morning. Yes, I know that 99% of parents reading this want to kill me right now, but I’m just stating facts. Will we be just as lucky with #2? Damn, I sure hope so.
#3 – What’s the thing you’re most excited about as you transition from one baby to two? That’s easy – being able to love another human being unconditionally. Prior to Little DDW’s arrival, I thought I knew what unconditional love was. Don’t get me wrong, I love my wife and I love my family and friends – but as every parent knows, the love between a parent and child cannot be measured or explained. At the time of this post, I can’t picture any possible way that I could love someone as much as I love my daughter – and I know that I’ll be proven wrong once our second little girl arrives in the summertime. Hell, I remember when Little DDW was born and I cried with excitement like an 11-year old girl getting backstage passes at a One Direction concert. I’m a pretty emotional dude, so I’m sure that I’m going to do the same thing again with #2.
#4 – How has raising a girl changed you? I find myself paying much more attention to women’s issues and women’s rights. It’s not that I ignored the plight of women previously, but in all honesty I was just another guy with “male tunnel vision.” In my opinion, it is SO much easier being a dude in today’s world than being a girl. Now that I have a daughter, I’m aware of the dangers/issues young girls have to deal with: rape, unwanted pregnancy, body image, mean girls, pressure to have sex, etc. That stuff is absolutely no joke. Yes, I’m completely aware that boys have their own pressures too, but it’s just not the same. I know I can’t protect my daughters from everything, but all I can do is be the best male role-model I can possibly be for them and hopefully that will be good enough. Or I’ll just buy a Louisville Slugger…because I, um…want to show any future boyfriends of my daughters how much I, um…love baseball.
#5 – Do you want a third baby? The short answer is “no” primarily because I personally like my odds of doing the job effectively when the kids don’t outnumber the parents. I have a lot of friends who have three or more kids and they are some of the most amazing parents I’ve ever seen. Seriously, I’m in awe of them. When I look at how they do the job, I keep thinking, “Damn, they’re good.” I know my limitations and I just don’t think I’d be very good at it. From my sports background, I know that I’m much better at man-to-man defense than zone defense, so I think two will be more than enough for me.
There you go. I wanted to use this “mini-post” to share this exciting news that some of you may not be aware of.
Thanks to ALL of you for your continued support of me and my blog. I’m completely overwhelmed by the amount of love you show me on a daily basis and I’m ridiculously pumped for what the future holds.
Oh, and here’s a sneak peek of FDW (Fetus Doin’ Work). Stay tuned for more exciting times!